One of the toughest kinds of relationships, and yet one of those who everyone wants to experience. Yes, it’s a long distance relationship that some people, once in a life time, always want. Long distance is something that melts people. It is difficult to maintain one and that’s a very mainstream statement to make. It is the best way to realize the importance of the other person. It shows us the true value of a relationship and the worthiness of the other. It is a test for all those who are strong enough to handle one. And so, here are a few tips and ways by which one can spice up their long distance..
1. SHARE EVERYTHING
This is the most important part of the relationship. Being able to tell the other person how you felt throughout the day might sound a little cliche, but it is the best you could do. But yes, don’t force them into knowing EACH AND EVERYTHING.
A: ‘Hey I made a cheese sandwich today.’
B: ‘I’ll alert the media.’
Like seriously, no. Nobody wants to have an absolutely unnecessary conversation like that. Other than what happened above, you should be able to tell each other everything else.
2. FIND SIMILARITIES
You might find this too mushy mushy, but no. It actually helps. Do a random 1-10 rating rapid fire round and find out what he/she likes most about what you like too. They might end up liking what you love too. But no, don’t expect your boyfriend to rate clothes and accessories. If you want to, give him an option of going negative on numbers.
3. GIVE SPACE
THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE. Let the other person breathe. If they want to go out, let them. If they don’t want to text you for some time, let that be it. Don’t make a fuss out of small issues. Sometimes, even if it’s the hard truth, the fact is that we need ourselves more than we need our better halves. Sometimes your importance defines your relationship. What you need is probably more important that what the relationship needs at the moment.
One of the biggest problems that come up are boyfriends (even girlfriends sometimes) telling their better halves to not dress up the way they do. IT’S A BIG NO NO TO THAT. Dress up the way you want to. Dress up for yourself. Make sure what you do makes you happy because that’s how you’ll be able to keep the relationship working. And stay away from people who tell you what to do.
4. TAKE DECISIONS TOGETHER
Everyone in a serious relationship would understand this. With the growth of the relationship, people start understand that they have some responsibility and duty towards their partners. And so, taking decisions becomes very important. Talk about things. Talk about life long goals and make sure that you help each other decide what you want. This helps one develop their relationship their own way.
5. TRUST EACH OTHER
This is too mainstream but true. Be there for each other when you need each other the most. Everyone makes a mistake for which you stop trusting them. But if you’re looking for ways to make your relationship stronger, then make sure you also see how much effort your partner is making in order to gain your trust back. Please don’t make them feel like they committed a crime. It’s really very immature to get in between all those mistakes from the past in your present fights. Stop that.